A prayer for today and everyday...

Lord, deliver me….

From the desire of being loved,

From the desire of being praised,

From the desire of being preferred,

From the desire of being approved,

From the desire of being popular,

From the fear of being humiliated,

From the fear of being despised,

From the fear of suffering rebukes,

From the fear of being forgotten.

-Mother Teresa

Green tea latte or just green money?

Do you ever stop and think about what it means to be "rich?"

It's funny because I live in South Charlotte, which is the banking capital of the U.S. where we now have some steep financial issues. Ironic. I have had a thought that I do think is worth processing..."Maybe it is time we redefine what matters." We don't like that because it makes us uncomfortable. We hate pain. We hate discomfort. We hate having to downsize, limit ourselves or refuse our children. We like money, ease, food, good drink, success, a solid image, the admiration of people,...in essence, we want what we want and we will often do whatever it takes to get it. So we define the highest good as a wealthy, successful life...a nice chunk of green flow. It's all around us. It takes over our lives and it wraps itself around all our hopes and dreams. And in so many ways, we stop living and instead we join the rest of the world on a thoughtless, narcissistic journey of the addiction to self. It makes me feel crazy sometimes. It forms a pit in my stomach. I find myself standing in line to get on the same damn train everyone else is getting on and then I have a moment of clarity that comes in a way least expected.

I have a friend who spent some time with me the other day...

I have known her for over 5 years and each year has been like opening another door. It's interesting to me how you can "know" someone and never really know them. It's interesting to me how you can like someone and not have a clue how much you will come to love them. This individual is a treasure. There are layers to people and very rarely do we take the time to sit long enough or take a risk and ask for permission to listen. I just keep thinking how we care more about money and "stuff" all the while missing out on what brings a true wealth to our lives. People are more worthy of our time and the investment always proves so sanctifying.

I wouldn't trade her or knowing the pages of her history for all the money in the world, sincerely. These times with her make me respect her more and remind me of the privilege of being her friend. And I hope when I am her age, which will come sooner than I think, to be like her.

I saw a homeless guy walking around a few years back when I needed a place to live...circumstances kicked me to the curb and I needed a home. When I saw him I felt for a brief moment that I could relate to him...and I feared the reality that maybe I could end up where he is. But then I had an epiphany and I realized that his issue was not a financial issue, it was a relational issue. He didn't have friends. During this time I lived in three different homes and I had another 5 offer me a place...no one would let me be on the streets. This was not about money, he had no one to care for him. He had not connected with people over the years. The truth is, if he had a solid and secure income would his life be any better because he had a roof over his head? Or would it still be lonely and aching since he had no one who sat with him and talked? So why do we seek wealth with such obsessiveness? How is it that we have missed people like my friend who has left a mark that is far more important than a paycheck? Why does money matter so much when we could have loads of it and still feel alone and worthless? We may look good, dress in reputable clothes and spark envy when we drive down the road...but would someone take us in? Would someone want to spend a few hours with us over a green tea latte at Barnes and Noble?

Her story is a gift to me on so many levels and her friendship is invaluable. Maybe in our economy...maybe in our deficit we will seek true wealth...a rich life that gives us cause to wake up in the morning and to celebrate the beauty of the people around us that we rarely stop to notice.

Sit and talk with someone, notice them, ask them questions, share pieces of you with them too...have a latte together and realize that true, successful life happens in these moments.

Well fed and fat.

I have recently started reading a book recommended to me by someone I highly respect. The title is quite scary and yet perfectly defines where our culture is headed:Christless Chistianity by Michael Horton. It opens with a thought-provoking question..."What would things look like if Satan really took control of a city?"...He takes the thought further referring to a scenario that Donald Grey Barnhouse described..."all of the bars would be closed, pornography banished, and pristine streets woudld be filled with tidy pedestrians who smiled at each other. There would be no swearing. The children would say 'yes, sir and no, ma'am,' and the churches would be full every Sunday...where Christ is never preached."

I am anxious to read the book as he addresses the modern church and how we have traded the supreme value for the holiness of God for the happiness of people. We have began to care significantly for the wrong things. We forget that freedom comes with confession of sin and we have instead become a people offended when it is mentioned too much.

We have strayed from the root of what we believe. We have fogotten what it means to follow Jesus and like Paul said in Philippians, "I want to know Christ, and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in His suffering..." We want comfort, ease and painless living...

Sounds like the total opposite of the life of Jesus...sounds nothing like, "I bid you come and die..."

Learn to live in the photographs.

(DEP 12/08)

How does looking through a lens and tapping a button turn into emotion, intrigue, inspiration and the telling of story after story? I love photography for this reason. When you walk around can you spot the stories hidden behind the glances of your day? The truth is, when you start to look, you notice the details of everything, and everything has something worth holding on to. There is a certain look on the soft face of a child, there is a barn set to the backdrop of fields of grain, there is a stark white, white snow divided by a black road weaving through the middle of nowhere, there is a reflection caught in a glass window, there is a cat on a bookshelf sitting tall with dull red, blue and brown bindings lined underneath, and there are the curves in a raging sea.

(Cory Arnold photography)

A picture is to your left even now as you sit and read this. Sounds can be heard for those who know how to listen to a photograph. And even smells drift off the page if you are really connected to what you see.

I love taking pictures and I am not even sure why. I guess there is something to reach for that goes beyond just the image taken. To be honest, it is not just a re-creation of the real thing, it almost propels me past the real thing as it touches on something beyond what just sat in front of me. Life is so fast moving. We don't sit long enough to feel, taste, see or smell what is all around us. We race past it and therefore miss the beauty of the simplest sight. We don't notice detail, we ignore color, we listen to loud music and never listen to creation. We miss miracles.

Planet Earth has become a favorite pastime. I marvel at what they have been able to capture on film. The best of the best in the world of photography set out to remind us to stop and to take us back to the beauty that is all around us. Their equipment is top of the line, which makes this possible in the first place. But the truth is, passion has motivated the makers of this series. They have been obedient to discover what is hidden. They have gone to the remotest place and brought back their findings to us in our living rooms. They decided it was the waiting the made it such a prize. And the waiting for some shots took days, months and even years. But to them, it was worth it.

Photography stops us for a moment. We can actually look at something that otherwise is so fleeting that it is often missed in the movement of life. We can sit long enough in front of something still and see the colors and see the shape and see the detail. It is a true gift.

So slow down, really slow down. Look around and find something worth staring at. Be comfortable with a different sort of accomplishment. And teach your children to do the same. We are dissolving under the race we run that has no finish line.

Hold on tightly.

“The man who comes to a right belief about God is relieved of ten thousand temporal problems…”

A.W. Tozer The Knowledge of the Holy

This is my prayer...I will sadly admit that I do not trust God. I stood in front of the ocean tonight. It was dark and the moon was full. I was ready, like St. Francis, to shout from the bell tower, "Look at the moon!!" It's reflection over the water would take your breath away. The sound of the ocean and the deep waters leave you with a sense of mystery and awe. The waves are constant. The moon hangs as it should. The ocean stretches long and leaves me standing small up on the dunes...with the wind blowing against my face.

And in that moment I can see just how big God is. I can hear just how strong He is. I am reminded of the power that parts waters and the faithfulness that flows without hesitation. I am left with the Truth about Who He is.

And in that moment, and with those thoughts, I am calmed.
I, for a second, believe He is everything and all things are held together by Him.

And when I walk back to the house...I take a brief glance up and ask Him if He will help me hold on to the right view of His majesty.
It is a discipline of thought,
and a fanning of the flame....

A right view...leaves me with such peace.
I will hold it like a gift and hope that when I awake,
it will still pervade my broken and dusty thoughts.

Think about parenting....

I think about parenting all the time and I am not even a parent. Though I don’t have my own children, I do have three incredible nephews and a very unique little niece. I have access to some children who scrape away some of the ache of that maternal longing. As I consider each one of them I list out to anyone a handful of reasons why I love this one or that one. It is frankly really easy to do so. My sister and brother have done such an amazing job parenting with their spouses and it is so encouraging to me, as a counselor of high school students, to see such proactive decisions on their parts to go against the current of the rest of the free world. In many ways, it gives me hope. In many other ways, it gives me tangible and practical ways to help other parents who seem to simply react to life, never really thinking, just responding to every wave of life that comes barreling over them. In other words, the most dangerous thing I witness today are parents who stop thinking and instead are swept into the whirlpool of culture and move with the changes that soon become “the norm” of living. Walking blindly forward, they rarely stop to consider what is best, what is healthy, why they do what they do, why they don’t do what they do, and what goals they would want for their kids in the first place. Scary…really, really scary.
I guess part of the problem is that it takes time, energy, self-reflection, a willingness to admit wrong and a commitment to work hard to redirect. All of it requires humility, and a lot of prayer. In the end, most parents fail to really consider how the present day impacts the future day. In other words, the way a child lives now, is most assuredly what a child will become. Think about work ethic for example. My sister told me what a parent said the other day when talking about her son having to work…”He will have to work the rest of his life, so for now I don’t want him to have to worry about that.” There is a raw, fundamental problem here that seems to slip through the minds of so many parents. The question that must be addressed here is this: how does an adult develop a strong work ethic? The truth is, only kids who learn a strong work ethic have a strong work ethic when they are older. The skills a child learns, and then continues to strengthen in his adolescence will carry into adulthood. This is precisely why we will often witness 40 year old men who are lazy, selfish and subconsciously expect others to do everything for them. That didn’t happen one random day in his thirties. Therefore, for a parent to think that a child will grow up and “have to work the rest of his life” is a true statement. And with that being said, a parent should consider how to help her child become a young man and an adult, who has a work ethic that will carry his family and career and his relationships to a level of loyalty, commitment and depth. Very few aspects of life will thrive without a solid work ethic. That cannot be explained, it must be developed. It must be learned and practiced. It must be incorporated into the fabric of every day growing up.

Sorry I laughed.

God caught Sarah laughing. She didn’t believe Him when He said she would be having a baby. She was 90, or 100, or 400 years old…her body simply did not have the capacity anymore to bear children. I don’t think she laughed because she thought it was all that funny when God told her the news. She laughed a cynical laugh. It was a smirk with an edge to it. God told Abraham that his line would produce a nation…as many individuals as the stars numbered in the sky. But there was a problem. A very clear barrier to the goal: his wife was barren. Here were years stacked upon more years, and I wonder if they even forgot about it. The truth is, I forget God’s promises all the time—and even if Abraham heard it from the sky, or a voice booming from behind, some supernatural communication…he still didn’t really believe it. I read the pages of truth each day and am left still wondering if He has my back, if He will provide again, if He will listen this time too…every day I wake up with another load of doubt and a heart laced with fear.

Sarah laughed and so would I. I admit, I crawl into the corners of my world and snatch moments where I belt out my news to God. I tell Him the cool things that happen and I figuratively shake Him in my mind to try to get His attention over the things I am so hurt by, anxious about or stuck in. I need His help, I want His attention and I doubt Him just like Sarah.

But every once in awhile…without any way to predict or con or manipulate God…Something breaks open and pours out all over my day. Something like hope. Something that tastes just like faithfulness and loyalty and follow-through. Every day, every hour, every minute God is blanketing me with His provisions, care and mercy….but every once in awhile I actually see it, taste it, feel it next to me and breath it in like the purest and most life-giving breath. Keeping His word. It matters so much in the end and somehow I still manage to think He won’t. Just like Sarah, just like Abraham, just like Job, just like David, just like Moses, just like Noah, just like Peter, just like Judas…just like me....

Anne.

Anne Lamott...one of my all-time favorite authors, describes her style of writing and reflects a little bit of herself. If you have not read Traveling Mercies, read it...it is raw and exactly what we are all dying for in a way. And one thing I love the most is that she describes Jesus as a stray cat, who, if she lets him in, will never go away. True, isn't it?

"I'm not laying a heavy 'Come to Jesus' trip on my readers," she says, "but I'm hoping to sow a seed." She would like readers to conclude: "Lamott seems pretty awful, she's made some pretty big mistakes -- yet she believes God loves her in exactly the shape she's in."

And it's the same way for you...and me. I am lovable in this shape. Hard to imagine. But very, very true.

Teenagers.

Do you like teenagers? If you're like me, you can't live without em' and then after a bit of time with them, you feel like you want to move so far away and never share space with them again. It's like that all the time...in the truest sense of the word: a love/hate relationship. I work with teenagers in a private school in North Carolina. I wake up early and spend the day with kids who range from 14 to 18. I teach them, counsel them, and laugh with them.

To be quite honest with you--I absolutely love them.

They think they can change the world, they are inspired by authenticity, and they laugh at themselves, careful not to take life too seriously. We could take some lessons from them as far as I am concerned.

But don't get me wrong...I worry about them. They can't be still. They hate silence. They are owned by what other people think, they want more and settle for less all the time. So this is why I am called here--I am inspiring as much as I am inspired. And they love you back in a way that is not simple to describe....

So here's one story. My kids asked me if they could go around the room and each say something about every member in their class. They wanted to compliment each other, every student in the class. So we did it. And it took many days to get through it but it was worth it. They were able to cross lines of groups and social boundaries. It was right out of a movie, and I was left undone by the way they spoke to one another with such kindness.

We finished. And the next day they spoke up, "We want to all say something about you Miss Poulterer." I have to admit, though it was sweet, it was so uncomfortable. To sit in the front of the room and have each student speak to me things they saw in me, or loved about me, etc...I knew what would happen. I knew I would weep.

It started. And one student after another ...spoke words that changed me. I drifted back in my mind to times I have begged the Lord to show me that He is changing me, making me more like Him and most of all--redeeming me. By the end I was hardly able to speak. Their words drifted around the room and left me humbled, stilled, and speechless. I told them I didn't deserve those words. I told them that I didn't know what to do with them, or how to process them.

And then I knew who it was from. I began to see that the Lord Himself used these honest, loving kids to speak to me what He says about me and to share with me what HE sees in me...and there is nothing like that.

I will forever hold that moment in the forefront of my heart. I will never have an experience like that again, I am sure. It was supernatural and life-giving.

So when they get on my nerves, when they are too needy or too loud...when they do the wrong thing and are rude or ungrateful...I will think back to this time and be reminded that there is far more under the surface than what we can see when we see them in the halls. They are alive and they are worth investing in....

Is Alaska my only hope?

I feel such a lack of inspiration right now. It is the strangest thing for me to actually be on this site when I have not been previously compelled to go. I have no profound thought and nothing that has inspired me to write. I guess on one hand I am happy that I am not just responding to an intense drive...it makes it feel possible to write when I have nothing moving me. And I never think it possible to write when it's not groaning within me, ready to pour out on the page. Progress, I guess in some sort of way.

So I will try to sum up one consistent thought from recent days...I have felt distant from the Creator. I think it is because I have stopped looking for Him like I did in Alaska. He bled from every site...His creation poured forth on me and I was changed. I am afraid to lose that. I want to go back.

The question is so frustrating: How do I find Him here? In Charlotte? In the mundane? In the routine? He is here as much as He is in Alaska. But it is hard to believe that.

I can still feel the crisp air on the deck of the ship, and the low clouds falling all over the mountains; I can still see the ice floating around and the Eagles spreading their wings as they would glide by us. The whales are beyond my words and the atmosphere stays like a fantasy in my mind. I guess I can ask Him to come to me again in this way....here, in another place, but just as much His.

Hope

Hope is a hard thing...it feels at times like trying to balance a spinning plate on your finger. It doesn't feel secure, steady or long-lasting. Often for me I will pick up Hope and quickly set it back down again because it seems to me, on some level, rather dangerous. Scripture says, "Hope deferred makes the heart sick." It does. There is a confusion for me between anxiety and the temptation to hold on to hope.

I know it is godly. I know that God's track record says we can hope in Him. I know that His promises are true, that He knows best. I know He wants me to have a heart that is alive. I know that He wants me to BELIEVE Him. I know a lot of things. But this is a bit harder than I realized. In quiet moments I strain to hear a voice say to me...

"Hope for it."

Life from hopeless dry bones....

I haven't written on this blog is so long....but summer always seems to open up time and space...and life's circumstances in some way demand for an outlet of reflection and pending hope. So I am here again. Starting and restarting and longing all the while for more than this life has ever attempted to offer.

Here are some words that I have had running through my head...a song by Jill Phillips, really simple and yet like a balm to my heart that is in desperate need of healing, repair and hope.

"When you're so ashamed that you could die, God believes in you.
When you can't do right even though you try, God believes in you.
Yeah, blessed are the ones who grieve,
The ones who mourn,
and the one who bleed, in sorrow you hope,
but in joy you will reap...
God believes in you."

Does this feel fundamentally difficult for anyone else to believe besides me? I was wondering, on a really basic level, how God has been motivated to stick by me. But His Word teaches all over the place that He is motivated and that He even "delights to show mercy." These days have shown me to be a murderer, an adulterer, a liar, a thief, a prostitute, an addict...the "chief of sinners," as Paul put it. And I always wondered how it was truly possible to believe that about yourself. I know it intellectually and according to theological principle. I know it is true because I believe scripture is true. But I have never really looked at myself and considered that I would fit that category. But today, now, in June of 2008, I have hit a place where I see myself as the worst of sinners--and I do not exaggerate and I do not say it with pride to claim what Paul himself said...God has opened a door for me to see the black cavern of my soul and the potential for the worst of choices and the deep selfishness that runs through my veins...and I know I am in fact, the worst, the chief of all the sinners I know.

So...is it possible for Jesus to love me really? Is it true that He can cover what is at the root of my heart and what comes out with each breath? Can He really believe in someone like me?

I read in Ezekiel that God brought to life "Dry, Dead Bones." Lifeless. Hopeless. Disconnected. I have read this passage a number of times over the last few weeks. And interestingly, as I opened My Utmost for his Highest the verse was this very verse...the Lord is trying to tell me something about how He handles death. Here are a few lines from the reading:

"Can that sinner be turned into a saint? Can that twisted life be put right? ...'Behold O' people, I will open your graves.' When God wants to show you what human nature is apart from yourself, He has to show it in you first. If the Spirit of God has given you a vision of what you are apart from the grace of God (and He only does it when the Spirit is at work), you know there is no criminal who is half so bad in actuality as you know yourself to be in possibility"

Ezekiel says the people of Israel are saying that "all hope is gone." And God responds, as He always does, "I will open you graves of exile and cause you to rise again...when this happens you will know that I am the Lord your God." And even as the song by Jill Phillips echoes the words from Matthew 5..."Blessed are those who mourn, blessed are those who grieve..." what does it mean to be blessed and to believe with confidence that there is more to come, even when it does not feel like it? This is faith...believing what you cannot see.

Sinners becoming saints...dry bones being brought to life...desert places flowing with new streams of water...rough places smooth....

I guess I fit into the first half of the equation...so I'll hold on to hope that one day I will see the conclusion.

Tim is here!

After my little brother's experience in the Philadelphia airport...and his arrival in the South, we discussed the differences in the people. Granted, the South has it's annoying traits...like being fake, or being self-righteous, or going to church because it is cultural instead of because it is so good to hear the Word preached so that it can take root and change lives....but Tim has found people to be simply kind on a basic level. So I quote one of his comments:

"If people from the North could go an entire day without speaking to anyone, they totally would."

The truth is, when I go to PA for Christmas...there is a part of me that likes the rough, raw atmosphere. It is good to be around at times...and even if our Eagles fans throw batteries, well it's nice to see such passion!

Brother Lawrence has such wisdom....

I have always loved The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. If you have not read it, read it!! It will remind you of all that really matters. He speaks to this idea of being in God's presence all day long, no matter what your task, your circumstance, or mood. To find solace in His presence, to talk with Him throughout each day...to think of Him and recall His faithful acts on our behalf. I want to share one quote here on this blog for anyone who reads...and quite frankly for my own soul to hear once again:

I think that freeing yourself of your present responsibilities for a while and devoting yourself entirely to prayer would be the best thing you could do for yourself. God does not ask much of us. But remembering Him, praising Him, asking for His grace, offering Him your troubles, or thanking Him for what He has given you will console you all the time.

Now as far as setting aside all responsibilities, I am not sure what that looks like or how to do that and still be responsible and care for our jobs and our families...but I get the point: be in communion with Him all the time. So here is a final thought: We must be near to Him, around Him, knowing Him in order to truly connect with Him. Lawrence goes on to say:

We have to know someone before we can truly love them. In order to know God, we must
think about Him often. And once we get to know Him, we will think about Him even more
often, because where our treasure is, there also is our heart!

So today my challenge to myself and to you is...be in His amazing presence, know His healing and His favor, His kindness and His peace, know His grace and constant mercy...recall His faithful deeds and soak in His gaze. Remember His character, and count on His track record...this is the realm of reality, this is where we are meant to live, this is our true home....for here on earth we are just strangers.

How about this line....

"My soul is weary and my cup is dry. I am so in need of you...So Lord come down to me, till my heart can sing...." ---Caedmon's Call "Rest Upon Us"

The Lord has brought me, in this weary place, to a point where I can sing. He has put words in my throat and I, with cracked voice, can muster out a few small praises. He is worth my full attention and constant affection. I cannot imagine life without Jesus.

Forgiveness

I asked the Lord the other day, "Why do you keep taking me back? Why would you want me again?" His answer is hard to believe, "Because I want to. I always want you back." He has taken me back for 35 years! I have a friend who has the impossible task of forgiveness ahead of her. I fall down on my knees and wonder if she could ever forgive me for all I have broken. I would say the same thing to her..."Why would you ever take me back? Why would you even want to?"

It feels as though I have left a wake behind me and the pit I have fallen into has gripped me and I have given into its hold. I have allowed such sin to enter me like a small parasite, and I have fed it. It is subtle and dangerous, it is powerful and yet quiet.

I read a portion of Henri Nouwen's book, Turn My Mounring into Dancing, and was impacted on such a deep level. He says that we look to others to have immortal powers. We turn to others to bear the weight of all of our expectations. I do that as often as I breathe. There are moments when I am weak enough, broken enough or humble enough to put it in its right place---on the God of the entire universe! Nouwen says we make life be all about life here and that in that, we look to others to give us security, peace, or even self-definition. I became overwhelmed by the content, being so clearly connected with who I am...and then the thought crossed my mind: "If he wrote this book, that means he deals with it...and that means others also deal with this." I am not alone in putting someone, something on the throne every moment of every day.

Do I really think it will work this time? Do I really believe that it is ok, not that big of a deal? The thing that amazes me, is that as a Christian culture we get so worked up about homosexuality. We have no tolerance for people who struggle with this sin...and yet when we read in Corinthinas about how wrong it is...we neglect to look at the list ...and idolatry is one of the first mentioned. It apprears to me to be one that He speaks of more than any other sin...I guess I can say with Paul, "I am the chief of sinners!"

Comfort for the weary.

A friend of mine, who has been reminding me of who I live for and what my ultimate purpose is, wrote me an email today with this quote...

Question 1. What is thy only comfort in life and death?

Answer: That I with body and soul, both in life and death, (a) am not my own, (b) but belong unto my faithful Saviour Jesus Christ; (c) who, with his precious blood, has fully satisfied for all my sins, (d) and delivered me from all the power of the devil; (e) and so preserves me (f) that without the will of my heavenly Father, not a hair can fall from my head; (g) yea, that all things must be subservient to my salvation, (h) and therefore, by his Holy Spirit, He also assures me of eternal life, (i) and makes me sincerely willing and ready, henceforth, to live unto him.
----(Heidelberg Catechism)

This is my prayer...this is why I was given breath today.